Parenting is not easy. We all know that. But some things arise that seem silly at first, but then later on make you wonder if you did the right thing.
Here's the deal: As I'm in Bubblicious's room hanging up laundry one night, he informs me that he wants me to buy him some skinny jeans. (Note: Bubbalicious is one of many names I have for my almost 9-year-old son.) (Another note: I HATE skinny jeans on the male gender.) So, I just mumbled something like "Oh, really. Wow!" and he started talking about something else. End of discussion, right? I couldn't get that lucky.
So, a few nights later, my lovely mommy and step-dad were over visiting, and I had walked out of the room, but everyone else, including hubby and kids, were all chit-chatting. Bubbalicious once again brought up these not-so-fabulous skinny jeans that he wants. I think he did it at that moment because "Ma" is always buying her favorite (and only) grandkids new clothes and goodies. I'm pretty sure he thought he could say that he wanted them, and next time Ma came over, she would bring them.
Lucky for me, and unlucky for Bubbs, Hubby was there when the skinny jeans convo came up. As soon as the words came out of Bubbs' mouth, Hubby exclaimed "NO WAY! You are not going to be wearing skinny jeans!" Since I wasn't in the room, I didn't hear if there was ever a reason given to him as to why he cannot wear skinny jeans, but in a way, I think it may be better to not have a reason.
Like it or not, we parents are role models. Some better than others. And, as the older I get, I can really notice how the majority of kids grow up to be similar to their parents. None of us actually want to admit that we are like our parents, but the truth is, well....the truth hurts! hahaha!
So, what got me to thinking about this whole skinny jeans situation, is are we wrong for telling him no, just because we don't like skinny jeans? It's not that we are trying to mold him to be just like us, because that is sooo not what we intend.
Hubby and I talked privately about why we both, at separate times, discouraged the skinny jeans. In our opinions, we think that style of jeans look great. On GIRLS. And girls only. Now, I know that is being totally judgemental. But that is the truth of how I feel. I know that skinny jeans are wildly popular with dudes, just as much as it is with the ladies, so please don't send me hate mail. It's just my opinion and I'm entitled to that.
I want my kids to have their opinions, their own style, and their own way of doing things. In a way, I feel bad for not letting Bubbs wear the pants he wants, but where do we draw the line? If he wanted to wear a dress, I would not let him. Thank the Lord that was not what he asked for. But if he asked for a neon-green pair of Nike shoes, I'd probably be okay with that. It's just a matter of what type of clothing it is.
I think the main reason we don't agree on the skinny jeans, is because as parents, we don't want our children to have to deal with any negative attention. I know that going to school is rough, without any extra attention on what the kids wear. I know there would be some kids that would make fun of boys wearing skinny jeans. But then again, obviously he has seen someone wearing them, or why else would he ask for them?
Maybe I am over-analyzing this way too much. He has not said anything else about them since Hubby said no. So, what do you think? Would you let your 3rd grade son wear skinny jeans, and why or why not?